Psyche in erotica - encyclopedia
Adoration
Showing admiration and sympathy that can take the form of adoration, delight or fascination. It can be a hysterical manifestation of feelings, be it dreams, letters, presents. During puberty, it is often revealed by young people to older people, including the same gender, e.g. educators, actors.
Agape
Neo-Platonists love heavenly, as opposed to earthly love. Commonly - it is altruistic love, kind, without jealousy and selfless.
Andromimeza
Behaviors of imitating the style of being men, characterizing the type of "a man with a vagina".
asexuality
Not paying attention to the sexual sphere of life, denying the way of being, dressing and preserving the characteristics of your gender.
Oedipus complex
According to psychoanalysis, it occurs in male children between 3 and 6 years of age. The child then perceives that the father, who arouses admiration and fear, pretends to love the mother he loves. This complex is based on a subconscious, suppressed (sexual) tendency to the mother and fear of her father's retaliation as a rival, awakening her son's unconscious hostility. In order for a boy to develop properly, he must overcome this complex by suppressing narcissistic tendencies and accepting his father as a person and a symbol. In this way, the boy for the first time builds a permanent and strong moral barrage, succumbs to the father, and thus also to authority, religion and knowledge (girls are the equivalent of the Elektra complex). He comes from a well-known Greek myth about the son of King Thebes Lajos and Jokasta. In the most popular version of the myth, Apollo warned Lajos against begetting his son, who was destined to kill his father and marry his mother. When Jocasta gave birth to a son, King Lajos ordered him to leave the mountains. There the shepherd found him and brought him to the childless rulers of Corinth. They raised a boy and gave him the name Oedipus, which means swellings, because before leaving, Lajos ordered to pierce the infant's foot with a nail. Oedipus, when he grew up, visited the Delphi Oracle, where he heard that he would kill his father and marry his mother. So, thinking of his foster parents, he fled from Corinth with horror. On the way, he quickly dodged Lajos's car, they argued, there was a fight, during which he unknowingly committed patricide. When Oedipus reached Thebes, it turned out that the city is harassed by a terrible monster - Sphinx, who puzzles the inhabitants and then eats them. Jokasty's brother decided that he would hand the beautiful widow to the one who saved the city from misfortune. So Sphinx asked the riddle of Oedipus - what kind of creature walks in four in the morning, two in the morning and three in the evening? Oedipus guessed the riddle - he replied that he was a man, because as an infant he crawls, then walks, and in his old age he must support himself with a cane; and thus he became king of Thebes and took Jokastha as his wife. They had 2 sons and 2 daughters. After years, pestilence and hunger fell on the city. The oracle revealed that it would be until Lajos's killer was found. Oedipus carried out an investigation and discovered a terrible truth. Shame Jocasta hanged herself, and Oedipus blinded herself with her brooch, and as a beggar he went into exile.
Electric complex
In psychoanalysis, it means subconscious and suppressed (sexual) tendency towards the father and fear of mother's retaliation as a rival who raises unconscious hostility. The girls perceive that fathers are more generous objects of love than their mothers, so they try to win their love when they see their mothers in rivals. Unlike boys, according to psychoanalysis, girls usually do not solve this complex.In this way women are not mature beings, they are afraid of losing the man's love, hysteria, complexes caused by the inability to violate the taboo of incest. The only thing a woman can do is take possession of a man in order to compensate her defect.
The name comes from the myth developed by the Greek literature on the daughter Agamemnon and Klitajmestra - Elektra. Her mother, Klitajmestra, betrayed and murdered her husband. Zeus, through the oracle, ordered Brother Electra to avenge his father's death by killing his mother. Electra, possessed by hatred, contemplating her enormous, almost incestuous love for her father, takes part in the murder of her mother. Then the guilty conscience leads her to the brink of insanity.
Feminization
Occurrence of some physical and / or psychological female features in a man. Physical characteristics appear after castration, hormonal treatment or hormonal disorders. Mental features are more frequently observed in homosexually oriented men and raised by dominant mothers and / or docile fathers.
Hedonism
A philosophical direction, a life attitude that recognizes pleasure as the most important goal of life, the highest good, and the main motive of human activity.
homogamy
The similarity and / or similarity of spouses in terms of mental traits.
Intimacy
Privacy. It may refer to the interpersonal space of contacts, emotions and ways of expressing them, nakedness of the body (outside the physician - patient system), excluding oneself from social systems (eg isolation at home, a monastery).
The concept of intimacy is closely related to partnership and eroticism. Intimacy in the life of each couple has its own spheres, which are surrounded by a common secret, they involve discretion, for example, not telling other people about emotions or sexual behavior of the partner, conventional gestures known only in relation to ways of showing affection, the principle of freedom, mutual conversation (you do not have to talk about everything and not everything), the right to have a living space, independent of your partner (you do not have to do everything together and you do not always have to spend time together). Both silence and restraint in expressing feelings, as well as exaggerated openness can become an obstacle to the formation of mature love, based on mutual respect and personal freedom.
The essence of masculinity
The pattern of socio-cultural behaviors considered to be specific to a given gender, eg in the patriarchal culture of Europe, was attributed to rationality, domination and activity in sexual intercourse.
Interpersonal communication
The process of information exchange between persons in direct contact, including verbal forms (spoken and written language), as well as non-verbal (gestures, facial expressions, behaviors).
Sexual dreams
Imagination sequences in reality, with high emotional tension, related to the sphere of sex. They can be an expression of proper psychosexual development, ignoring needs, evoking memories or evoking wishes. Predisposition to dreams is characterized by certain personality types, usually only occurs during adolescence.
Lasting attitude, based on the predominance of fantasy over reality, when reality is subordinated to wishes, and the partner invented, is the attitude - the team of Alicja in the wonderland. Some people (most often women) thanks to their imagination, without the participation of sensory stimuli or stimulation of erogenous zones can achieve orgasm.
Defense mechanism
A systematic reaction, distorting the image of reality, enabling the reduction of anxiety caused by the will, whose implementation may expose the attack and interfere with one's own convictions and standards. In sexual life, people often use defensive mechanisms as protection against failures, a sense of disappointment, shame or remorse. Well-known defensive mechanisms are:
Rationalization - we give a positive aspect to unpleasant facts, such as ill-conceived sexual initiation, we interpret it as "life experience" or we invent evil traits in goals, people who depend on us for example in a partner who does not reciprocate our feelings at all.
Projection - we assign other people's feelings and desires, for example in the state of falling in love, we usually try to observe similar symptoms in another person.
Fantazjowanie - when being in the real world is too difficult and is associated with, for example, loneliness.
Regression - escape to infantile behavior, eg to receive affection and protection.
Drowning - not allowing some information to be aware of, e.g. sexual abuse in childhood.
Compensation - the desire to achieve success in a different area of life, eg a physically unattractive man tries to be a sophisticated lover.
Sublimation - satisfying socially unacceptable needs (eg sexual) in a socially acceptable way, eg through art.
Aggression - an attempt to destroy a threat object, eg aggressive verbal and non-verbal behaviors towards the opposite sex.
Masculinity
A set of specific biological and psychological features. Biological gender differences are relatively unchanging in the course of history, but social and personal representations are both historical and cultural versions. Men's features were connected to a stronger extent with the public sphere, the primacy, greater sexual activity, aggression and competition. It is now recognized that most of these traits are taught during life and that they are not congenital.
Sexual mimes
Inclination to create sexual myths about yourself, telling others about your successes, conquests and great success in the opposite sex without any real support.
Mental health
Mental sex is an individual feeling of belonging of each person to a given gender. The feeling of this belonging is shaped throughout the whole life of a given person. So far, the mechanisms that are responsible for the individual development of a sense of belonging to the male or female gender are not fully known. Undoubtedly, there are cultural reasons and the way of upbringing which the child undergoes in the first weeks, months and years of his life. Whether we dress a boy like a girl or a girl like a boy is just one example of a way of upbringing, which in the future can be of great importance in establishing a child's sense of belonging to a given gender. In the case of properly developing people, there is a consensus between the sense of psychic gender and the genetic or phenotypic gender. If, however, there is a disagreement, even in one of the criteria given here, then we can talk about the phenomenon of sex discrimination. This phenomenon is referred to as intersex.
Sex appeal
Charm, charm, charm.
Erotic dreams
Imagine situations and events about sexual content based on your own direct (sexual) or indirect (eg watching movies, photos, other people), processed and enriched experiences. They are characteristic only for the sexual life of a human being. The higher the level of libido and eroticization, the more often such dreams occur.
Mechanisms leading to fantasies can be biological (eg related to sexual temperament) and psychological (eg arising from the need for novelty, as an expression of desires, conflicts, hidden deviant tendencies and a large imagination). They usually accompany masturbation, can also appear before falling asleep, under the influence of reading (34% of respondents), watching movies (60%), magazines (41%), conversations (24%), presence of a loved one, attractive person (33%), spontaneously (33%). Fantasies and dreams are often provoked by pornography or other stimuli, such as: attire, fragrance, etc.
In women, fantasies are more often associated with feelings, scenery and reactions of the other person - usually close and familiar, while in men they take the form of specific caresses and sexual behaviors.
Sexual fantasies play a very important role in the sexual life of a man: they serve to discover sensuality, self and other sexuality, shape needs, discover a new world of erotic sensations, experiences and expectations, are full of symbols through the transformation of sexuality into eroticism, also fulfill an important function in sexological diagnosis . Sometimes they can have a negative effect on the psyche when a person loses their sense of realism and escapes into the world of fantasy, exposes themselves to disappointments and situations when they are misoriented, eg by pornography depicting images of deviation and sexual violence.
Sexual taboo
Ban on religious, local, ethnic and linguistic nature in the relations between women and men. Many social prohibitions have acquired legal significance, such as the prohibition of violence in marriage, incestuous relationships and with immature people. Until today, at least partially, many sexual taboos have been preserved, e.g.talking about matters of sex or nudity (especially men), masturbation, homosexuality and others.
Identity
The way in which a given person can maintain a personal identity in the sphere of sexuality, nationality at a particular stage of life, despite experiencing crises, adversities and destructive social pressures. In the sphere of sexuality, it is a persistent sense of own biological and social sex.
Visual sexual stimulus
An external impulse, perceived by the sense of sight, triggering sexual reactions on the principle of psychosexual arousal. Such signals can be a view of a person, photographs, drawings, films, images. Studies show that women are much less responsive to visual sexual stimuli than men, with particular differences regarding the reception of pornography. It turns out that women react more strongly than men to auditory stimuli, eg music.
Vision sense
Ability to receive and analyze light impressions with the help of the optical system of the eye. One of the five senses (the others are: touch, smell, hearing, taste and smell).
Jealousy
Feeling anxiety, fear of losing something or someone who is of great value. In a relationship partner, jealousy can be a very strong emotional state, resulting from a great sense of uncertainty. It is connected with suspicion and the pursuit of exclusivity, the desire to possess and dependence on a partner. In extreme forms, it is associated with aggression towards oneself or a partner (eg the Othello Team).
